Right. This isn't good. I think you need to see an L immediately. I guess what they are going to say (we're in the same boat here), but she has responsibilities.
I think the best thing to do is draw up that separation order pretty quickly, if you haven't done so already, as that will then give you access. Next, your L should advise you, as she has ran away, on how to deal with the Sherrif. I know an interdict is expensive, but I think in the circumstances they may well be very accomodating.
This is not DB time, this is survival time. Your S will be wondering what the hell is going on and she needs to see that right now. As you're aware, in Scotland you have equal rights to see your S and participate in his well being and how his life is being managed. If W doesn't want to play that game, you've got to go for her.
Drop what you're doing and arrange this now.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015