So feeling ok about all of this, although I still find myself put off by people that talk of divorce casually (or really at all). I didn't chime in on the abuse thread because I didn't know how to say this without minimizing the points zelda's trying to make. I AGREE with her. The problem is that all of the definitions of abuse tend to be so vague. I think the victims of abuse don't always know it, and on the flip side I think many WAS's that weren't in an abusive M claim they were. So I still get a bit exasperated listening to people justify blowing up their families by making themselves victims when they simply weren't accountable for their own happiness and boundaries...yet I want people that are true abuse victims that are being hurt to protect themselves and not permit being mistreated. Bottom line, I support taking a few years to rebuild your own life and seeing what happens, but that's just my journey. Back to feelings- I think this is my biggest hang up, is I'm still fairly disdainful of people that leave marriages.
.
I couldn't agree more. I don't say much Around here these days, but I've enjoyed watching your progress.
Last edited by Calibri; 06/11/1502:32 AM.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
