WW has left to go to her mothers with S9. She says she isn't coming home and we can work out a schedule with S9.
She reckons I'm unstable because of the fight last night.
It's good that S9 isn't amounts the stress but he should be at home.
But guys, I don't see a way back. I'm seriously thinking about throwing in the towel.
I'm so sorry this happened. How did she relay to you that she thinks you're unstable? I think this needs to be addressed, because it sounds like she is trying to turn the tables on you, especially if she put this in writing. It sounds concerning that she picked a fight, then threatened to call the police, then left when she was unable to get you to leave and call you unstable. That sounds like part of a plan.
Here's what I would do:
If she sent something in writing, I'd refute her claim in writing without hesitation, and describe with very down to earth language how she behaved in anger, tried to shut you out of the house, followed you when you tried to walk away from her to protect S9, how you had to calm S9 down, etc.
I would make it clear that you strongly object to her taking S9 with her from the home without discussing it with you, and that you want her to return him home immediately. She is free to leave, but she is not free to take your child.
I would tell her that you under no circumstances accept that he is with her and OM.
Even if she disregarded everything, you would have it on record that she is acting against your expressed wishes and has taken S9 without your permission. The law considers a lack of objection as an implicit agreement. I would solely focus on S9 in this situation. I think your argument about how he being removed from the home adds stress to his situation, is very good.
For now, I would tell her you intend to keep the home. I'd get a roommate if I had to, in order to manage.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
