What do you think you can DO? Stop it? Expose it? End it? You cannot stop or end it. You Do NOT control him. could expose it but that's NOT DBing and imo it'll backfire. ("Wife is nuts/obsessing/ and 'controlling' and suspicious and negative'....ETC)
You can spend your energy snooping and obsessing but that will NOT get you closer to the goal of restoring your marriage.
If you believe an affair would absolutely 100% with certainty, end the marriage, then go ahead and snoop and file for divorce, if your fears are confirmed.
BUT IF it's NOT an absolute deal breaker, focus your energy on becoming the better choice.
From how much you continue to go backwards, staring at HIM, after saying you'll focus on yourself it it clear to me that you're going to go nuts if you do not detach soon. Very soon.
you suspect H is having an affair or emotional affair? Do you just let it play out since he no longer lives at home. I am assuming this is part of Detach and GAL - Its been 4 1/2 months since we separated.
you answered your own question. Now, listen to yourself and instead of "letting it play out"
You work on YOU and so, when he compares you to OW (IF IF IF there's an OW)
his "data" about you won't be valid anymore.
Because you'll have done YOUR WORK.
However, At the rate you're going, I"m afraid he won't see enough change in you that he can believe the marriage would be better/different than before.
Please do yourself a favor and put the STOP SIGN in your head every time he pops into your brain. Then steer it back to YOU and yes, make it all about you.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
