I have noted that there is a lot of focus on WS being willing to end things and have NC. I get that. So you keep DBing until the WS is ready to end and come back. THEN you expect NC.
I'm totally confused by this. The key things you need to be working on are detachment, GAL, and then the 180s you started discussing above.
I'm not sure why you are focusing on the no contact. You are still living together, right? So there's going to be SOME contact. If you read Sandi's rules, none say "ignore your wife and don't talk to her." The point is to avoid pursuing. Just having NC is NOT DBing.
When I say NC I mean between WS and internet chat buddies. Not between myself and WS. I am in frequent contact with WS. We have 2 kids and sleep in the same bed. and have to fight myself to detach.
Ok. Got it.
Either way, I think you need to start following the DB plan.
