On the other hand, she looks at me and she sees a former partner in business and in life, thus single and sad and unemployed. She associates me with the failure to date of our business. She sees nothing in me that gives her the dopamine hits of sexting, dating, concerts, picnics, romantic dinners, beach trips... she looks at me and sees everything she wants to escape. Right now, her escape hatch is incredibly superficial - as any escape hatch would be. And, her understanding of stability is very superficial, too.
Well, you are getting the right idea. That is another reason we encourage you to focus on becoming the man you want/need to be. And that often takes some time with quite a bit of doing. I have found many LBS who want to immediately show the WW their changes. What they really need to do, however, is get those changes really stable before showing off.
Quote:
But no... here's the thing that struck me. Stability IS important to her, but that doesn't necessarily mean lots of money, or a powerful job.
I agree that is true for most women.
Hope you continue with your PMA.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
