I hope that felt good to write, buddy. That kind of thing is tough to read. I may have to wait until this thread hits page 2 to come back here. I feel for you. And for all of us here.
I think this post answers your questions from the last thread. The dressing, smelling, FEELING better is for us. It ALLOWS us to start to truly FEEL the way you wrote above. Can you imagine writing stuff like that sitting in a dark apartment in your sweatpants eating old pizza? Of course not - that guy is CLINGING to his wife and shambled marriage for dear life.
The way I see it, we are doing becoming a person that is attractive to WOMEN. One such woman who may find you attractive is your wife - lucky for you, you are already in love with her, so she's going to trump all the other women - at least for now. Over time, we will all choose to stop putting our love energy into our current spouses and try to find new ones. Depending on where you are in that cycle of/when your wife decides she has some interest in R, it may become a possibility.
So we become the person we want to be. We let go. Then we live our lives and see what happens.
