Cali/Sandi, You are right to question my recent availability to STBX. Thanks for keeping me in check!
I guess subconsciously I got impatient and didn't want to miss an opportunity to discover or validate STBX's position. I felt like I had done well pulling back as of late and strategically justified my actions. I know now is the time to play it cool and stay focused. My plan is to pull back some more from her over these next few days.
On the GAL front, I regularly attend and have started my own discussion groups, go out with friends regularly (movies/dinner/drinks/trivia), exercise, regularly update wardrobe, etc. 180s: less critical of others, less argumentative with wife, rediscovering hobbies/interests, engaging in active listening/not offering solutions, maintain clean household, re-establish independence/confidence.
Wow, thanks for causing me to sharpen my stuff. I hadn't thought about this for a while.
All of those familiar with my sitch, please jump in and offer suggestions for possible 180s!
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
