Linked to Cali's excellent post above - have you read No More Mr Nice Guy?? Many posters recommend it.

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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus