First post. Desperate for advice.

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Ok...now you're starting to get somewhere....
In thinking of these behaviors, what are you going to DO to 180 them?

1. I have begun to state what I want. This is a constant battle against myself. I still struggle with it.

2. This one is tough. Do I 180? That means more time together. or detach? Advice on navigating this would be helpful.

3. A 180 here violates another rule. She does not want to be pursued right now. Or does she?

4. I have started working out, and I will improve my diet (when I can eat again).

5. This will be key. I really want to do well here, but despite attempts in the past still fail regularly. I am not sure what a 180 looks like because I have tried hard at this and still failed.

6. Therapy for this. This trait effects me throughout my life, not just in my marriage. I cause myself untold worry & stress planning for worst case contingencies that never come to pass. I need to be more in the moment, and focus on what I can control.