There are forums here on infidelity, depression, MLC. Abusive marriages does not deserve its place here?
This would have been helpful to me. Someghing, anywhere on this board to say sometimes DR is not enough and you're in over your head. What I have been stubborn? Perhaps. There is also a good possibility that I might have considered that abuse was a factor in my relationship. That DB does not Cure all. I may have been able to talk to a different kind of veteran who understood, and I may have sought help and called the thing by the right name earlier.
I daresay that Michelle wiener Davis would not advocate for someone DBing themselves back in an abusive situation as part of her process.
Maybe there is a bat signal you can send out to her.
First of all I would submit that most people on the MLC forum are in abusive marriages.
I am not trying to give you a hard time and I do believe that MWD has a section in the books about not remaining in an abusive marriage.
The main purpose of this forum is to sell coaching and MWD materials, IMHO. So if a DB Coach was helping you then I believe that they would try to get your focus on to YOU. Certainly my main objective is to try to help people focus on themselves as that is really what DB is all about. Controlling the only person that we have any power over.
Sorry I do not have any bat signals available to me and I have never met MWD. TBH she has not posted here in many years and really this forum is not her focus.
We are a peer to peer group and none of us are paid professionals, but volunteers that are paying forward the gifts that have been given to us.
