I know it's difficult, however, for your own benefit, you need to stop giving your STBX so much power. He made his decisions and he will have to live with them. Just like you will have to live with the decisions you make. It's a new chapter for you and it can be so exciting and wonderful:)
Yay, GB! Awesome post! And what a testimony for you moving through snobbery and perceptions of it.
I was out yesterday to attend some training on... wait for it... positive reinforcement. Granted, it was in the context of working with people who have intellectual disabilities, but as a business owner, there is so much information that translates well to every other aspect of daily living.
Anyway... Maybell... have you ever considered reading up on NLP? I think it would do you the world of good. Your personal perception eyesight svcks. As Rick said, your view of yourself is getting in the way of your success. If you were nearsighted and you had glasses for farsightedness, would you feel confident about doing anything wearing glasses that blurred your vision or made you see things that weren't there? My guess is no. You're generalizing across the board, and it's not only unhealthy, it's not true.
Granted, that one guy might be the biggest snob on the planet. So what? He is probably snobby across the board. Why does what others possibly think about you affect your beliefs about yourself? Why aren't YOU your own cheerleader? Why don't you pity HIM for being narrow minded and judgmental?
My former boss was beyond successful. He could sell ice to an eskimo. He fought in Vietnam and was well read, had a great vocabulary, dressed well and was a philanthropist at heart. But he got his honorary high school diploma in 1990 and never went to college. Nobody would ever look at him and think, "what do people see in that guy?"
More of us out here in the business world look up to people who put themselves through state college (I went to one too, Georgia). Anyone who puts effort into living their life to the fullest is someone I want on my team - at work and at home.
There are lots of books that work with the NLP concept, MB. Pick one that speaks to you. Because you're the only person getting in your own head. Don't give that ugly voice free rent. It's going to crush you if you don't replace that programming with affirming thoughts. If anyone needs to positively reinforce you right now, it's YOU.
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sometimes we need to be our own biggest cheerleader. Complete with pom poms, liberty heel stretches, and a dance routine.
Bravo! Absolutely 100% on the money.
Hugs, Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
