It seems to to me the closer we get to to the D, the more resolute she becomes and hardens her heart becomes. I cannot see how going through this process will make her "reconsider" any of it. Based on her words and actions, this will make her kill any future plans we may or may not have together, whatever our relationship status is.
I guess there is not one thing I can do about it but just be as kind and as cordial and polite as I can be during the process.
So, the question now is if she does not have an attorney that means I have to pay for all of this? Wow. Maybe I can get the attorney to write this into the divorce contract that we split the cost down the middle? Surely that seems fair. if she balks at that I will have to switch to Plan B - which I have not figured out yet.
Yes, a court date has been set but unless we both agree on the terms, the date will be cancelled or rescheduled. The pressure is on but for the record, I am calm, centered and ready for what the next steps are. The decisions I have made are for best interests of me and my kids.
