Tulo, regarding this: One thing he said this weekend, that really hurt, was that he thought the fact that I was very open, straight forward and honest was one of the things that made him think that we weren't a good match. Because he wasn't as honest and straight forward. What does that mean? That he want a girlfriend that's not honest? That me being that is suddenly a bad thing? Has he lied to me, during R and just feels bad about it and therefore doesn't want R any more?
Remember to believe nothing he says. Look for nuggets of truth amidst all of the other garbage he will say. Of COURSE nobody wants someone closed off and dishonest.
But MAYBE you were TOO open. We're you emotionally needy? Do you always say what's on your mind, even if it's critical? Do you always tell the truth, even if it's hurtful?
At these times we have to really listen for what they are saying, because the actual words are meaningless.
