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[Tulo]

Hey Tulo -

So I'd recommend to detach emotionally as you can. Then move forward with how you want to live without focusing on him or R. If you want to burn the bridge behind you as Huddy suggested, fine... But I think you move forward with YOU. When he is interested in R, then you can deal with all the "stuff" going on now.

Hi Matt!

Thank you so much for your reply.

I'm trying to detach as best I can, but to tell you the truth it's not very easy to say the least.
I deleted him on FB but yesterday I couldn't help myself so I snooped to find out who the woman was that he brought to the fair this weekend. Like that made me happier..

I'm just having such a hard time with the fact that he seems so ready to move on without me, that he says he doesn't have any feelings for me and I'm just so scared that he's never gonna come to the realisation that he misses me. Do you think that is true, that he's just totally out of feelings for me?
I wish I knew of people who this NC have worked for..

I've just been out running and I know that I need to do a lot of running to feel better. So the plan is to run every morning to get the day off to a good (hell, who am I kidding.. a better start then the anxiety ones I'm having now) and try to spend time with friends. I also have planned to repaint my house this summer, ought to keep me busy for awhile.

One thing he said this weekend, that really hurt, was that he thought the fact that I was very open, straight forward and honest was one of the things that made him think that we weren't a good match. Because he wasn't as honest and straight forward. What does that mean? That he want a girlfriend that's not honest? That me being that is suddenly a bad thing?
Has he lied to me, during R and just feels bad about it and therefore doesn't want R any more?

So much want to ask him about it but feel like I have no more room to do so.

Matt, ok, I went on a bit of a venting expedition here.. Hope you don't mind. I so appreciate you writing to me.

I am going to detach, and find a happy life without him. And then just hope that we at some stage can reconnect and maybe get this to work again.

Big hug!