you change for you, and not for your W. If you keep looking over your shoulder where your W is, it will drive you nuts. And also, if you change for her, then you will always be expecting results and if you do not see immediate results, frustration sets in. The goal is to find yourself, to find out that you can be happy for yourself by yourself and that you do not need another person to make you happy (only you can make you happy). If you count on an outside source to make you happy, you are setting yourself for disappointment...
