Why do you say "if I am set on Divorce?" She has already filed the papers. The divorce is already in the court system. I can't stop the process even if I wanted to.
No, but a long mediation slows things down. Mediation is heated and generally not just one session. I help clients with this and it can take several sessions over a period to achieve a mediated result sometimes. In one case as many as 15 over as many months.
What is it that she wants? What is it that she is flailing against? To find her own voice? To be free? To do her own thing? To get away from me? This AP? I have seen all of the emails to and from the AP and they are hot and heavy - it's enough to know that they are "madly in love" and will sacrice anything for their love.
Mediation is about finding a way through the maze of emotions and issues. We are not saying MC here but vital things to do with child access, fins and resources. This is your M with WW. Her R with her AP is at its peak it would appear so. Mediators would not perceive a married AP as a long term prospect for parenting. Especially not one 600 miles away and unable to provide.
I keep feeling like I am missing something here?
That you may be moving your side forward quickly in anger. Have you both truly explored that which mediation has to offer?
Are you suggesting that we do go to Co Parenting classes together or is that in the future.
Yes, I am suggesting you consider it seriously at a time when you are calmer. both of you. That may not be immediately.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
