This is really tough as a phase. WW is doing what WW will do, lashing out.
Nothing really you can do.
If I were you I would not accept or deny anything!
Validate: "disappointed you feel that way WW"
Then STFU.
I get it WW is a pain in the neck.
I know that Joe will not be abandoning his step kids. Otherwise why bother to set boundaries, we do that with those we love. And Joe it is evident you care for your SS enough to set those boundaries.
Calm, breathe, relax.
It will be alright in the end and if it's not alright it's not the end and besides the fat lady hasn't sung yet!
V
VALIDATION! That is what I need to work on! Thank You V!! You always know how to say the right thing to make me feel better!
SS has taken advantage of my kindness many times. He has come to live with us twice when he was in a bad place. Both times he felt he should be able to do what he wants, not work if he doesn't want to and not help pay for groceries. Both times he left angry. I am not dealing with that right now!!
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
