NDY, I think it is about time you drank a STFU smoothie. Deatach, let go, this $hit is eating you from the inside. It really is not worth it...
You are better than this...
Thanks vapo but I don't understand. Set the boundary or not? She crosses the boundary so what? Just let it be? Curious because this situation all started from her emailing me. So what am I meant to do? I answered honestly and I don't want her A rubbed in my face.
Look, D is inevitable so what am I supposed to do?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
My last response wasn't posted, but I'll answer your last question. GAL. Stop engaging for now. You can't stop her from texting her boyfriend; she'll do it whether you like it or not.
My last response wasn't posted, but I'll answer your last question. GAL. Stop engaging for now. You can't stop her from texting her boyfriend; she'll do it whether you like it or not.
JAL,
You are correct that NDY cannot control W; however, he NEEDS to put up a boundary around himself and the house that W not text the OM in front of him, in the house or around the house.
My last response wasn't posted, but I'll answer your last question. GAL. Stop engaging for now. You can't stop her from texting her boyfriend; she'll do it whether you like it or not.
Em, ok. So I just let that go on under my nose? What wonka just said about boundaries means nothing? Come on. Let's be consistent here. Is it boundaries or not?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
My last response wasn't posted, but I'll answer your last question. GAL. Stop engaging for now. You can't stop her from texting her boyfriend; she'll do it whether you like it or not.
JAL,
You are correct that NDY cannot control W; however, he NEEDS to put up a boundary around himself and the house that W not text the OM in front of him, in the house or around the house.
Thank you. That's what I just said. Anyway she's leaving for her mothers. May well be good for her.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I'm sorry. But I thought this might happen. If you push someone, they might push back. Both people have to agree in order for boundaries to work. If someone is dead-set on texting, they will text.
My friend, I'm not scared anymore. She and I just had a blow out over text gate. I stood my ground. Ok, that did make things worse and do you know what? I make no apologies. This is probably the worst DB thread ever but I will no longer pussy foot around this.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I'm sorry. But I thought this might happen. If you push someone, they might push back. Both people have to agree in order for boundaries to work. If someone is dead-set on texting, they will text.
Jal, would you give an alcoholic booze? No, of course you wouldn't. Why would you? Sometimes pushing is necessary. I'm sick of the softly softly approach. All it got me was her getting even further into her A. Nah, no longer. Done with that.
I get the lighthouse stuff but right now it's about growing a pair. No more no less.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I'm sorry. But I thought this might happen. If you push someone, they might push back. Both people have to agree in order for boundaries to work. If someone is dead-set on texting, they will text.
Jal, would you give an alcoholic booze? No, of course you wouldn't. Why would you? Sometimes pushing is necessary. I'm sick of the softly softly approach. All it got me was her getting even further into her A. Nah, no longer. Done with that.
I get the lighthouse stuff but right now it's about growing a pair. No more no less.
I see where you are coming from. I wish you luck. I was just thinking all that engaging with her was stressful for you, and retreating for a little while might be beneficial for you. But you gotta do what you gotta do.
I'm sorry. But I thought this might happen. If you push someone, they might push back. Both people have to agree in order for boundaries to work. If someone is dead-set on texting, they will text.
Jal, would you give an alcoholic booze? No, of course you wouldn't. Why would you? Sometimes pushing is necessary. I'm sick of the softly softly approach. All it got me was her getting even further into her A. Nah, no longer. Done with that.
I get the lighthouse stuff but right now it's about growing a pair. No more no less.
I see where you are coming from. I wish you luck. I was just thinking all that engaging with her was stressful for you, and retreating for a little while might be beneficial for you. But you gotta do what you gotta do.
Thanks Jal but this isn't the time for retreating. This is the front line.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
