Wonka set me straight on the counseling aspects and I will NOT mention any counseling again. W has told me several times No unless it's co-parenting counseling which I have said no to.
I have told her that I will of course co-parent our children but we are not friends, nor will be have any communication except that about kids or kid logistics. I would never have friends who behave this way, ever.
W has begged me to drop L as I can "trust her" to be fair in the mediation process. Ummmm..... no.
It is going to be hardball and I hate that but I am up against the wall and will do whatever I have to do for me and my children while she is running her crazy train off the rails.
She wants me to meet her AP so we can talk about things!!!!! She said she wanted to give me the courtesy to meet her before our kids do. WTF! I politely declined with no.
I have reread Sani's top two WAW strategies:
Guilt - don't do this or something terrible will happen!! Controll - You are trying to control me!!
My WAW takes full advantage of both of these. She accused me yesterday of -
conspiring with the IRS to rip her off
timing our tax returns with my lawyer letter to rip her off
I prevent her from driving into our neighborhood
This affair is not the reason for our split, just the catalyst
I poison the kids against her
If I don't mediate, I will destroy any chance of a relationship we will ever have and it will ruin the kids lives
She wanted full custody of kids because she feared for my health
She should have left me years ago as she has never been happy
