We take summer holidays together each Aug, typically for two weeks, we've done this for the last 10-12 years. We've been talking about it again for the last while but yesterday I told W I didn't think it was a good idea. She was surprised & a little shocked by this to say the least. When she asked "why not?" I told her it was because I want to be absolutely sure that our relationship is where we both want it to be. Also, although I didn't tell her this, I am trying not to be naïve to the fact that there's still a possibility that W is hung up on OM.
I think that was an excellent answer!
It's too early to know if she still has OM in her head. I would believe she does quicker than not, simply b/c of the time it takes to get over an EA. By August? Who knows? She, of course, will want to continue with the vacations...and will guilt you by using the kids. It's a tough call.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
