Just Fishin'

[Vanilla]

Mahhhty

You might want a quick look at ODs thread as he has dealt with this recently in his life. (Old Dog)

Nervous, I understand that. Now is your chance to shine, smart caual of course with aftershave. listen to a cheerful tune or two that will make you feel lively throughout. You can even sing along whilst you cook. Childrens songs are particularly great for that. I am sure you have some cheer up songs on tap. Shake that booty in fun. No alcohol at all, have your tipple afterwards in private.

You have two lovely kids, you could plan a small proper activity and a friendly face to talk to and sit next to. It would help if you can be the first of the two to be unavailable.

And smile, keep on smiling and smiling.

A tip my IC gave me was this; if looking at W is hard especially at her face or in the eyes, then concentrate your gaze at the middle of the forehead or between the eyebrows. The other cant tell and it looks like you are 'seeing' them. To create distance donot invade body space in the inner circle, ie 2/3 arms length. Never stand over W if she is sitting and no pointing fingers.

Relax, if you can. If you feel nervous take three very deep long breaths.

I did say smile? I am sure I did! It softens the tone of the voice.

If you want to feel loving then smile at your two fantastic little ones. At the birthday boy and his cake, toys, or presents.

Act as if it is going to be ok and it will be.

I am sure others here will have some great ideas too.

Smile

V