The final push

[NDY]

2 things.

1. You took out the part about her being free to leave. What are your thoughts on her leaving and leaving you the house and son???

I'm thinking that you leaving (again) is a terrible idea. OM will eventually move in and take over. If he wears the same size clothes you might as well leave them behind for him. However, if you sell the house, I'm thinking for all practical purposes your marriage would probably end thereafter. Without a familiar and historical "home" to come home to there's less attraction to considering you as the primary option when the affair dwindles and dies. There is just nothing like a wayward spouse having to stop by their old home and the familiar smells of "spotted dick" or some other english delicacy in the oven. Especially since it was your dream home. Why doesn't SHE move out and let you keep it...at least for awhile.

I also understand if she won't do it. That's just her feeling TODAY but as you continue to hang around her and the house and make her feel uncomfortable about her activities her feelings may change. The pull of the affair addiction has been known to be strong enough to get wives to simply abandon their families when things don't go their way (their entitled way being - everyone be happy for me and do what I say and no one gets hurt).

2. What angle did she take? I'm just interested in her mindset. Some go on the offense "how dare you question my parenting" where others say "did you just call me a bad parent and start to cry [crocidile tears]". She likes using fear and anger to manipulate you. When that no longer works....she'll change tactics. She COULD call the cops and say you hit her. I've heard stories of wayward wives running their bodies into walls, slapping themselves silly and calling the cops and showing them cuts and bruises to get them to remove a betrayed husband that didn't mind them. What they don't count on is that cops aren't always stupid. If she's beat up and you don't have a single mark on your hands, arms, wrists, legs then your story that she beat herself up becomes more believable and SHE could get arrested for filing a false police report. Either way....watch your back.

Hi GB

Summary as I'm on my phone. I can't afford to buy her out, but what she is offering me to buy me out is pretty much a con. I'd be loosing out in thousands. My opininion is that if this is the end then I need as much cash as possible to buy the best place I can afford for me and S9. Why should I live in a crappy flat? I don't want a D.

Her take was she is sorry we can't reach an amicable agreement which is odd because I only re iterated my first and last stance. Her offer doesn't cover it. If she can't afford to buy me out then so be it.
Lastly, she will not leave S9 behind. If she leaves he goes with her. Not much I can do about that except ask him.