I hear you, HeavyD. Yeah,this whole thing is so shocking, and she's been cold.

But at the same time, she's also feeling very guilty, and has made countless overtures toward trying to "make me feel better." Even last night she hugged me at the ball park and put her hand on my leg in the car. (I pulled away, but still.) As we spoke this morning, she insisted we'd separate fairly. It's always possible she could turn and make things difficult, but I don't think she lacks a conscience entirely.

Still, I'm on my guard. I know she and I are not a team right now. I need to be vigilant. At least on those days when I can get out of bed...


Me: 46 Her: 41
M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18
3/26 W and I meet OW
BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring
W goes to stay with OW 6/26
NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16
I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19