My wife and I both enjoyed our time together on our anniversary trip. The resort staff decorated our room, made an announcement in the daily flyer, and delivered a special breakfast to our room. We did a workout in the gym the first day, a group bike tour another. One afternoon was spent receiving spa treatments, and enjoying the many amenities of the spa. Every night we shared the same bed. The majority of the balance of our time was spent laying/playing/drinking on the beach or by the pool, or dressing up for fancy dinners. Yes, we both got mild sun burn.
We spent one entire day visiting some ancient Mayan ruins, and then a large Cenote!
At the ruins, we learned about Mayan history, and got some great pictures as we climbed the many buildings and steep stairways. Our guide actually worked with archeologists who studied and reconstructed the area, so he really knew his stuff. In our group, only one other guy and myself made to the top of the tallest building. It was quite exhilarating!
At the Cenote (natural sink hole) we rappelled from ground level down a hundred feet into the water! We could hear and see bats flying around. There also was a zip line and platforms to play off of. The lunch afterwards was amazing and we enjoyed it while talking with others in our group who were from many different areas of the United States.
At dinner the first night we had a “State of the Union” discussion. Again, I wanted my wife to understand just how important this is to me, and how I didn’t want her to be surprised when I could no longer do without. (per Michele in her book SSM) We also discussed SA, which is almost certainly the largest factor driving the most troublesome part of our marriage. My wife is not yet feeling good about herself, so even though she has been reaching out to me physically, (basically because of the talks) she’s not feeling it. I need to go slow and continue to be “safe” and not push too much, even while I’m frustrated like crazy and just want to throw in the towel at times. It’s a tough line to walk, but hey, I'm sure her walk is even tougher. Still lovin’ my girl!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
