Thanks for commenting.

I will try this apporach, yes they are all individuals so I should treat them as such. I want me kids to keep up their relationship with their grandmother and cousin as much as possible.

I actually did FaceTime with my MIL last night for about a minute. She flew into town and she said Hi and said Hello. We made some pleasant small talk and that was that. Maybe just baby steps.

Was made a better person by DB'ers