You seem to be in a quandry over picking which choice is worse or better.
I have just as much issue that the kids are home alone, and although she may not be a fit parent, it is better than no one at all, I guess.
Give them the key, and that will help you with detachment, and it will in fact show her that you are changing, and letting go.
After I posted
Originally Posted By: Ripken8
Sandi, Matt, everyone - that's what I felt. That by not giving the key I was controlling the situation and essentially forcing interactions. No problem. I will give them the key and have ww pick them up on her way home while I'm not there.
That's what she wants to do, so I'll continue to stay dark, GAL and work on me. No control over her or when we interact.
