The final push

[NDY]

Is this a private or public service? It sounds like they were more legal facilitators than relationship counselors?

Yes, they are a public service that's job is to facilitate the separation.

Unfortunately there is no persuading WW to go to MC. She's simply not interested and I haven't got a clue on how to persuade her that it's for the best. TBH if I were to mention it to her she would no doubt go nuts.

That's actually really well put. Let's see how she reacts to the first email.

My H goes nuts on a regular basis, so I've learned to live with that. This is what I said to him, quite seriously (but not accusingly):

"We made vows when we got married. You and I made some very serious vows that were for as long as we both shall live, for better and for worse. This is the 'worse' part. It didn't say 'until I get bored and allow myself to get enticed by someone else', or 'until it gets too difficult'. I think we both owe it to our marriage and to those vows to attend marriage counseling before we throw in the towel.

If it ends up with us splitting, so be it, but at least we will have tried, and I will not put any obstacles in your way if you still want to divorce, because I will know that we didn't leave any stone unturned. But I will not casually walk away from my marriage, because I took, and still take, those vows very seriously.

If we end up divorcing, which I acknowledge is what you want at this point, we will also benefit from counseling to help us through the process without fighting and becoming enemies, which I think we both would prefer. Will you go to counseling with me?"

It worked for me... May not work for you with her, but personally, I would not have left it off the table out of fear for how she might react.

That's actually really well put, lets see how she reacts to the last email.