Ok, I guess I am a normal LBH as I feel good to learn that om has problems. I had intel on om fall into my lap last night. D20 told me that she was not surprised to hear that om had a heart attack on Sunday. "He is an alcoholic", d20 told me when she saw him recently with W and the other kids he was falling down drunk, he tried "to put a hand on my shoulder and I flung it off". And he kept acting like he was everyone's best buddy.
But d20 also said om is taking care on mom, and is nice to her.
It is funny how our minds work when thinking of op. My W tells me om is 44 years old and a former athlete and I think of him as some sort of person that I cannot compete with. But W and I have 22 years of marriage together, and 4 children together, and a real history together of good times and bad that om can't touch. And hearing he is an alcoholic, shows he has other issues that he is dealing with. Add in the heart attack, and he seems like a paper tiger to me.
Call me weird but this is the first real ray of light that I have had that there is a slim bit of hope for our marriage, since the BD 2 years ago.
