I understand you have to reply,I'm just more wondering in general where does the line go from saying "this isn't what I want,but I won't stand in your way" to just doing the actions to show you aren't standing in the way. Not saying you shouldn't send the letter I'm just trying to figure out in my own mind why we have this urge to tell them because it seems to come from a place of pursuit and holding on.

My own sitch and strategy is evolving and I think I'm mostly where I want to be, but I see others threads and think "damn, that looks like a good idea" so I'm trying to understand why I like it.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be