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[Tulo]

Tulo,

I'm not sure if I'm fully up-to-date on your sitch, but I do recall reading your initial thread. For what it's worth, here is my 2 cents.......

I very much appreciate it!

No one can tell you what is best for you in regards to your physical encounters with your x bf. However, if you are left wanting more, hurt, or feeling slighted, then I'm sure you know that you should probably stop engaging physically with him.

I *think* if you end the physical encounters, then you can start to heal a bit.

I know you are right and that is what I've done. I can't just have sex with him because the truth is that I hope for more and at this time, he's not willing to give it. The only thing I can hope for is that since we've both thought it to be awesome in the bedroom, that if he's getting it from somewhere else it's not as great with them. Silly, I know but still I hope so. I don't think he's made that move yet, though but realise it's only a matter of time. And then, I hope he'll remember what we shared in that departement.

I would also suggest that you stop inquiring about who he is becoming friends with, dating, etc. Honestly, you aren't together so it really isn't your concern. Others may disagree, but I suggest that you just assume he is or will be.

I agree and that is why I deleted him on FB. I don't want to see what he's doing and don't want to have the chance to snoop.. This way I hope he'll see it as a 180 and be a bit surprised about it. I know he checks up a lot on my activity and maybe the fact that he now can't makes him wonder a little bit about what I'm doing.. Do you think I'm wrong?

Again, he says he doesn't want to be in a R with you. As we all know that could change, however, right now is what you are dealing with and the focus should be on Tulo's well being. Because you sound like a pretty awesome lady!

You are so sweet to say, don't feel that at the moment but I will work on getting back there again. I used to think I was pretty ok, but at the moment I feel like a second hand cracked cup at the flee market.

In regards to FB, well I have many past posts about what transpired on SM in my sitch.

I will check that out! Not really waiting for a reaction to my face, think hell will freeze before that happens. But think it's gonna bug him anyway and to tell you the truth I don't want him to get any part of me at the moment. I don't want him to know what I do, where I am, with whom and he can think (or not think) about it, but I want to deprive him of me. Silly I know, but that is how I feel now.

Hang in there. It does get better:)

I so hope you are right because this is just so hard!! Sending you a big hug and THANKS for your reply!