Hi Vge, Good Luck for Wednesday, I will be thinking of you and sending you positive thoughts for a good result. You have responded to treatment well so far so stay positive - you so deserve a break.
Originally Posted By: vge1
H asked my oldest , "where's mom?" DS18 replied in front of OW, "I think she's getting her nails done." UGH!!
I showed my son that I didn't get my nails done, that I had instead gone to the store. I asked my DS18 not to tell dad stuff like getting my nails done especially in front of OW cuz then he's gonna report that I am frivolously spending money. (which I don't!)
I don't feel it matters whether you did or didn't get your nails done - its nothing to do with your h or ow what you do, he has made it perfectly clear that you are not together, which means that you are free to do as you please ....just as your h is doing. Vge - If having your nails done would make YOU feel good about YOU then don't feel guilty. ATM your h does not feel guilty about what he does or spends, you are suffering whilst he is having his fun - time to get the focus back on you and inject a little enjoyment into your life, especially while going through treatment; whatever makes you feel good about yourself do it.
I know its really hard and everything that your h does and says has an affect on you, but try to feel it and then let it go otherwise you will end up stuck focusing on the crapola he is sending your way and not on yourself and your kids.
Your kids will be ok, they are doing great, keep being their stability and calm and they will find their own level with h. This is his situation to own and work out with them.
You are an amazingly strong gutsy lady vge, you can do this and I have no doubt you will come out the other side.
