So sad that I can't even think !!

[asitis]

RosaLinda, the only goals I wrote go from:
Better/More intimacy
Socializing more
Comunication more deeply

To:
I would like him home for x-mas
I would like to be able to go for dinner even if still separated
I would like to be able to do fun things together-go to the movie or fishing even if still separated.
I would like for him to call/text me to chat about our day not just a good day or goodnight.

What I am doing to detach is at the moment is not texting him or calling him first & keep replies short & to the point.

Thank you all for all the help, I really appreciate it.

So you want him to initiate contact that either asks about you or shares about him?

You want him ask you on a date (that may take longer)? What do you think would be the first sign that this might be in the works?

OK, how about you. What do you want to do for yourself in the next month or two? Just for yourself. Just to make your life happy with or without your H? Do you have a hobby? How about some exercise and taking care of your health? A new look (clothes, hair style, etc - that'll get his attention)? IC. Taking a class at your local art center/museum? Volunteering somewhere that gets you appreciative contact with people and makes you feel good about yourself? Are there some friends you haven't spent time with a while that you would like to reconnect with? Are there any groups you are connected with that you would like getting more active in?

You see, showing him that you aren't just sitting around with no life outside of him is one of the best things you can do. Even if it doesn't draw him back, you will be in a much better place to handle whatever comes. And it does make you more attractive and plants the seed that he may not have the luxury of doing what he wants for too long because he knows he always has you to come back to.