RosaLinda, the only goals I wrote go from:
Better/More intimacy
Socializing more
Comunication more deeply

To:
I would like him home for x-mas
I would like to be able to go for dinner even if still separated
I would like to be able to do fun things together-go to the movie or fishing even if still separated.
I would like for him to call/text me to chat about our day not just a good day or goodnight.

What I am doing to detach is at the moment is not texting him or calling him first & keep replies short & to the point.

Thank you all for all the help, I really appreciate it.