I was reading an article in some rag the other day about the McEnroe/O'Neal family. The son recently wrote a book about his "dysfunctional" family. In it, he made mention of how stable his father was during all of the drama of divorce. He also mentioned his mom and what a wreck she was/is and how they managed to forge a relationship anyway. That kid had a rough go of it for quite a while.
I thought of you. Seems a superstar can have some good qualities as a parent and still have a life, no?
I know plenty of guys in a similar boat, if that helps.
As for the other stuff going on. Are you in a place where you wish OM well? I don't wish him bad, but I don't wish him well either, and I don't even know your wife, for what it's worth. I honestly believe that things happen in life. God may or may not put pressure on us at various times or just may not intervene.
But I'm reading the above and thinking how messed up your W is. i.e. she is putting on a front, but there seems to be an open in the circuit.
I'd say your wife needs to live these calamities and work out how to do it for herself.
I'd suggest standing far back and being a friend from a distance. I do encourage you to be a friend, but see the bigger picture. Stand or not, now's not the time to be close other than as a friend and let her work these things out for herself. It's part of her growth from what I can see and you'll get in the way if "too" close.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
