The final push

[NDY]

Ok Wonka et al. this is what I have so for

Dear WW

I agree that things at home aren't healthy and that we do need to move this along. I don't agree however that separation/divorce is the right answer nor in any way the “best way forward” for S9.

When I moved back I did this under the premise that I “didn't care” what you did. I was not honest with you. I do care. Your affair is by far the most sole crushing, hurtful thing anyone has ever done to me and by extension S9 as well.

If you were honest with yourself you would admit that the best chance any child has it to have both parents together loving the child as well as each other. There is no doubt that children of divorced parents do not fair as well as children from a loving family.

I get that I made mistakes, I've not always been the best at caring for my M or S. I'm just pointing out that, if S9's well being is your main focus then you should be thinking that his best option is for his parents to have a healthy loving relationship. I hope you can start to forgive me for my part in this in the same way I will work on forgiving you for what has been the most hurtful thing that has ever happened to me.

Bottom line, if you truly have S9's best interests at heart you will end the A and we can both commit to working on our M and that means both of us. Think about it. When you ended our M neither S9 nor I got a vote. If we had a vote now what do you think the outcome would be?

So I thought you should know how I really feel here. I believe we can be great again. I know you don't believe that. You don't need to argue nor snipe at me to let me know that to you this is over. I understand. But I also know that feelings aren't the truth. You more than anyone know that feelings change and they will change again. I just hope that you understand that just because you FEEL right now that we are done doesn't mean that we are.

You have to understand that no matter what has happened in our recent past, I am the only man that can love you this way and is willing, even in this horrible situation to still forgive and give you a chance at your family even in the face of such indignant betrayal. Don't throw this away on a feeling. S9 and I are your history, your future and your family. You can continue down this destructive course if you wish, Im not your keeper but your husband. You can reject this if you wish. That is your choice but this isn't just about you.