Out of curiosity, what do you hope to gain from marriage counseling?
If you are going to talk about trying to reconcile , I think it may be more damaging than helpful. But I'll let the vets chime in.
i dont know, this is why i posted it. I originally said i want to go to show and effort of wanting to repair our M. She said we didnt need it (obviously lying to herself or me). Now 3 months later, she has finally agreed to go, however, since i know she still have the A i haven't confronted yet, i dont see this as a good thing because its clearly out biggest issues in terms of whats blocking us from repairing the M. There is no way a MC wouldn't get this out instantly, and i wouldn't want to lie about it because then its just wasting everyone's time. I met with my own counselor today, she couldn't believe i was able to play nice this long without confronting, said it wasnt healthy for me. I am now able to talk about it opening without getting upset. I think it may be time to get sandi's or starskys help on the correct way to go about this? I know i need a plan and there are good/bad things to say and approaches to take... the knowledge of knowing this is seriously starting to get to me. I almost would rather get it so at least the fear is gone and i can deal with what the next step will be... I see now i was 'waiting for the right time' and there never will be. I am also over the initial shock so i can carry a conversation about it not and stay solid... i hope im not supposed to keep this secret forever
