Wonka is spot on with all of this. I'm sorry you are in a difficult place right now. Yes, it does appear that your W is pushing buttons and that is why detachment is crucial.
I'm gonna toss something out a bit different on OW. While I agree that OW isn't worth your headspace, you do have children with your W. I did invite X Mr. GB and OW to Christmas at my house because....well, I figured I would meet her at some point. Why not meet over some cookies??!! I certainly wasn't worried about feeling threatened or less than by her presence. Why would I? This no longer became an issue regarding respect for me because I had zero control over their behavior. I never had control of their actions at any point. Granted, our D was final at that point (only 30 days needed here) and x Mr. GB declined which wasn't shocking. His parents would have been there as well and oh I'll skip that part:)
If you have any concerns about OW, I would go and meet her. However, you will probably meet her at some point anyway. Everyone here may think I'm crazy for suggesting that, but you seem like a smart, strong, capable lady. However, if you have no concerns, then I understand declining the invitation. Again, even if you had concerns it would be challenging or impossible to share with your W. It could be just for your own peace of mind.
I agree with Wonka that your W is trying desperately to make you the villain. Don't wear the black hat. Detach. Be cordial and focus on you and your peeps.
Hang in there!
Last edited by Georgiabelle; 06/08/1506:34 PM.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
