My story pt 2

[Kembo05]

Thanks Smothy.

Just interested to hear other opinions. Since my W filed for D I have really been detaching physically from her. Trying harder to detach emotionally, at least I can 'fake it until I make it' with that part.

Normally when I get home I will go off and do something with my D2, away from the house. I am rarely at home now, especially when my W is there. Should I try and stick around a little more just to see if she does anything positive? I obviously won't follow her around; I just mean be at the house a little more.

I don't think it is uncommon, but I just overanalyze everything I am doing at this point. Sadly, it hasn't even been a week since she filed. I know patience is the key; it feels like it has been a year since she filed.

Just to recap in case anyone isn't aware of the recent ridiculousness; I thought I saw OM and I followed him to his house, it ended up being his brother and I ended up having a convo with dad while the OM watched through the blinds like the POS he is. I told my W this happened and at first she was calm and then when she had a few minutes to process she was livid. 100% livid because I had D2 with me; bad call on my part but I never would have put D2 in a situation I thought would escalate.

This is the straw that broke the camels back for my W and she decided to finally file for D2 the day after this happened. She said it was because my D2 was with me, but I honestly think it is because I brought the affair into more light and she was embarrassed and fearful this would cause the A to officially end. Weeks before when she said she was done with the A I told her if this OM popped up again I was going to go find him and she said she would never forgive me for this if I did. What a statement, right? She wouldn't forgive me for approaching the man she is cheating on me with, or the man she is betraying our family with? What a bold statement

Anyways, a few days later after she filed for D I told her the OM was to not come to our house and to never be around my D2; my W got upset at this and told me she was done with that relationship and it was me going to his house that made her realize she didn't need OM anymore. I still have a difficult time believing OM is completely out of picture, but I don't/can't care right now. Once she filed I told her she was free to do whatever she wants; I am starting a new life and I know I will be OK.

Everything is still so fresh for me, so I feel like I am barely treading water. I thought things were improving before this event happened. My wife has definitely shown some curiosity in me GAL, she has even used the words "weird, confused, and hurtful" that I am doing a lot of stuff away from the house.