It sounds like a situation you could not handle gracefully right now. I know I wouldn't be able to. What about saying, "thanks for offering, but it's too soon for me."

Or, "no thanks. I don't think that's necessary at this time."

M: 16y
3 adult kids, 2 young kids
H filed D May/15, no svc yet
Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends? ~ Abe Lincoln
WAKE UP. WORK HARD. FORGIVE. REPEAT.