Letting Go Part VI

[DJin]

Please know I do not think there is anything *wrong* with anything you think or have done or with you having a lawyer.

I suspect you want to go back to a healthy relationship (or obtain one if it never existed in a healthy way) with yer W more often than you want to D.

I am totally, totally on yer side. I think yer W and my H will soon find themselves elected Grand Marshalls in the Butthead Parade.

But what if this is just a phase. I would not feel comfortable letting my kids grow up in a broken home because I couldnt get through a difficult phase.

I do think you'll find peace right now returning to the small goals. We can do all the detaching and GAL and LRT and 180s, but without the goals, we don't know when they are working.

It looks to me in the patterns I've observed that much of what you are doing IS working, it just isn't working as quickly as you'd like so you dismiss it. That is not the DB method.

I want for you what you want. And my heart hurts for you. And I don't have yer W's ear right now or I'd have plenty of words for her.

I think you and I have situations that are still full of hope. We would fight for the life of a person for as long as there was a spark of chance. Should we not fight for the life of our family? For our kids, can't we do that?

Love and hugs.