When Mr. Wonderful moved out, I knew we were going to be affected financially and that our lifestyle was going to change drastically (and it did). I live in a pretty wealthy part of our school district, though my 'hood is definitely not where the John Elways' of the world reside. (Think that magnitude of wealth-they are in our school boundaries.) I let her know from the get go that we could not afford to keep up with the Joneses, and though I would promise to get her what she needed, she'd NEVER, EVER be able to keep up with a good deal of the rest of her classmates and to just accept that. She accepted my discussion, and I left it up to her to manage. She got involved in sports and to my knowledge, it never became an issue for her or her classmates either.
NEVER apologize for who you are or your station in life. NEVER tell your kids that they deserve more stuff or something different. Once you do that, you minimize the good life you have right now, and you teach your kids that what you have isn't good enough for them. Let them know that where ever you live, you'll have joy in your household.
Hope your week is a good one!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
