So sad that I can't even think !!

[RosaLinda]

My husband has moved out when I approached him with the information I received & all he said that he loves me but he didn't think he was in love with me...he said that he is done done & that he wants to be alone, no one to report to and be free to do what he wants to do.

You say you want to know where to start. I'd say by giving your H his wish, Leaving him alone, with no one to report to, free to do what ever the heck he wants to.

You're going to have a real hard time detaching from him if you keep talking and texting every day. DB 101 says to give your H space and time and STFU (shut the F up). Stopping this daily communication will help you achieve some peace of mind and start to heal, as he won't be on your mind constantly. AND it will show your H, as Matt and Painter pointed out, a bit of what life would be like without you. Your H cannot feel the loss of you if you are at his beck and call via text, email and long conversations over coffee.

I suggest you set some boundaries for yourself (boundaries are meant are to protect you and not to punish your H, and must be things you can actually enforce). I was sort of a door mat in my marriage, LOL, but did have the boundary that I would not be in a physical relationship with my ex while he was in a relationship with someone else. Your H is at least in an emotional affair right now, and the physical might burst back into flames at any moment.

I'd suggest you also adopt the mindset that "you moved out, this is no longer your house buddy, no more cozy chats over coffee"

What else is going on? Have you started doing any fun GAL activities on your own? Hang in there Cindy. DBing may not save your marriage, but it's your best chance. And it WILL save you! If you stick to this process you will come out the other side whole, sane and happy, with your battered self esteem back in place, and in the best possible place for your next relationship, whether that is with your H or with someone new.