Angels, I would venture to say that is more about your need to be intimate, rather than hers. The fact that you want to have sex with your W in spite of knowing about the A, is not that uncommon for a LBS. If pysical touch is your LL, then of course you miss it very much. You feel security in it. I wonder though, if subconsciously you see having sex as a fixer to the problems of the M. It once was great, so why wouldn't it trigger her positive emotions again, right?
Having sex with your W (at this time) is obviously a very personal choice. However, in choosing to have sex......don"t fool yourself into believing it will work magic on her. The dynamics of the MR has changed.
I would have to agree right now it is about my own need. Im glad to hear its not that uncommon and yes i am very physical and thats defiantly my LL, which makes this whole thing even worse. That is how i feel connected (like most guys im assuming), so not only does this hurt because it doesn't feel intimate, but because she shared this with someone else. That’s really what has destroyed me mentally... Also i do not think sex will fix anything especailly now. That is not something that i have tried or expected
I have been talking to a couple close friends of mine who are very supportive and they can see how it has affected me and how quite I am (the whole problem, but just this). Im wondering if the shock has actually fully hit me yet, or if I have been surpassing it by GAL, and avoiding it because I need a plan of how to expose it like you have all made me see. I get now it needs to be more ‘formal’ and not just attacking and totally emotion driven… that would not end well
