So she filed for D....wants you to play along and not worry about protecting yourself...and then blasts you for not participating in that? Hard to believe, huh?
Look, she filed for divorce. You have every right to have an attorney so there is SOMEONE looking out for you. It's not your problem that she can't afford someone for her. I say stand your ground. If it leads to some delay, so be it. She's going to be mad, but it's more that you aren't listening and following her commands than it is about you.