Thanks for the reply - at least I am not crazy when I try to put those two together and I get the "My affair has nothing to do with our breakup" line. Jeez. I don't know whether to be insulted because she thinks I am that dumb or if she really truly believes this.
I am in the same boat as you only further along - as my W has been gone for 9 months now. The only positive thing she can say is that I am much better and hands on parent now.
She on the other hand has told me she won't participate with any kids activities, soccer, scouting, etc... I am not sure why other than to not have to run into me. Cali said his W said the same thing but eventually started coming to the games.
GAL activities for today included:
Church Got hair highlighted and cut Gassed up car Target for supplies Shopping for house items Replaced watch battery Ate lunch at the mall Walked dog around the block
Yes, I know they don't sound exciting but for me, doing all of this solo is still taking getting used to. I am outside of my comfort zone and realize that it doesn't kill me. I was going to the movies with a friend but she bailed at the last minute - no problem.
Back to the grind tomorrow - MIL in town - my D6 told me. I won't see her I am sure. She's the one that called me a Viper in an email that I saw. So, I don't think she will want to see me - LOL. Why did she call me a viper? Because I was very upset that my W kept threatening to take the kids away from me and actually filed that on the D papers. So, yes, I am a viper when it comes to maintaining my legal 50% share of my kids time.
You know I have been thinking, I mean really thinking about me, and my kids and what the future holds for us. I honestly don't want my W back as she is now after everything that has gone down. She has single handedly destroyed our family with no remorse. My kids are too little to "get" what she has done but one day they will. I will not run her down to them as they love her and I know that is not healthy for them. I can now see how dysfunctional the relationship really was due to my codependent issues and her narcissism.
W has burned the bridge and we have reached the point of no return. I think she and the circus freak are a good match and truly deserve each other. I truly believe she is a narcissist as she has no empathy whatsoever for anything she has done and does not seem to understand what she has done.
I am done, now only legal stuff and paperwork to finalize. I can honestly say to God if I meet him, that I gave it 100% effort. I tried my best.
