Yeah heavy, I really can't imagine that they really think that the affair is not an issue - can they not even see how things would be if all the roles were reversed?
I'm sure it is just something that they tell us and themselves - I have gotten the same thing. "he is not a predator, it is not his fault, we were done before the affair" I've heard it all (though I believe none of it).
I guess we should drop that line of thinking as it is pointless - I don't think we would ever convince them otherwise.
have a great sunday!!
Me-45 W-44 S21, S18, D15 T-27, M-21 BD Jan 2014 PA revealed March 2014 In-house separation - April 2015 I filed - Aug 2015 She moved out Oct 2015