I had a similar situation with my daughter last winter. I took on a more expensive rent with her assurance she would contribute to the monthly expenses. When I signed the lease she was so excited because the townhouse had this spectacular view and everything we wanted. Anyway, she didn't fulfill her part of the bargain.
After 3 months, she left. I made it clear, if she chose to leave, she wouldn't receive financial help from me. She would be on her own.
Since this time, she has pulled things together for herself and things have settled down for me. In the five months since she left, she has worked two jobs, received a promotion to supervisor, re-enrolled in college, handled financial aid alone, has her classes scheduled, gotten herself an apartment, made some car repairs, even purchased some furniture!
I'm really proud. I'm still disappointed she couldn't see the potential here and follow through, but I'm accepting she had to do things her own way. And, things were very overwhelming here.
I would encourage you, based on my experience, to allow him figure this out on his own. Sometimes, I think, we lose sight of the positives of our situation because of the negative.
While not what I wanted for my daughter, this circumstance has made her stronger and forced her to learn some important life skills.
Just my two cents.
While I'm disappointed she
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