Hello Cindy - Im so sorry you are here, but you couldnt have found a better, more supportive place.
A few things: - read and re-read the links in Cadet's welcome post. There is so much incredible information in there.
- I'd recommend you modify your signature to look something like mine so that people can easily see your situation and remember what is going on. Also, not sure if thats your full name, but you may want to remove it...just in case.
- As for actual advice, I think you really need to start distancing yourself from your H. It sounds like you are giving him all of the things he needs in a great friend, but it doesnt sound like thats what you want from him. You are meeting all of his emotional needs, but none of your own. I dont think that he is going to change his mind about the marriage if you keep this level of interaction going. Read and re-read Sandi's rules....I would start there and see how you can start to apply those.
- In the meantime, you mentioned that you have read the DB book. So what kind of 180s do you have planned/in progress? What kind of goals do you have set?
