25years, I was thinking the exact same thing. I think i need to have a conversation with her. And express that the things she continues to do reflect very badly on her. There was a time when i was the one running around snooping, checking texts, etc. Now that i have let her go, and begun the healing process of finding my new self and life. She seems to be hell bent on snooping into my life while still trying to maintain her A with OM. It makes zero sense. Both our families know about the A as well; so i really couldn't fathom why she is doing this. She wanted this new life with OM, i remember when we split a phrase that haunted me for far too long; she actually said "there was so much more to offer her in this world than what i could!" that rocked me to my core at that time; because i had and would have continued to give her everything i possibly could. I wonder if she is getting so much more from life now with me gone. To be honest i do hope she is, because through it all, i still love her in my own way. I hope she is finally happy and that she has found in OM what i obviously couldn't give her! But then the actions she has been taking tend to speak otherwise. Well i leave for Ft. Bragg in T-Minus 2 months, after that we will no longer need any type of contact. Life will indeed move on! Thank you for your input 25!
